One thing that you get used to hearing if you are a fundamentalist evangelical Christian like I am, is that accusation that you hate sex, or that you think sex is “dirty.” These accusations used to annoy me a bit, but now I am a bit more used to them. The truth of the matter is that Christians love sex. We see it as a gift from God. In fact, I believe, based on anecdotal evidence that I will not share, that God-fearing Christian men who are married actually have far more sex than their non-Christian counterparts. This is because a god-fearing Christian man treats his wife with respect all day long, encourages is wife’s advances, and joyful chooses to have sex even when he’s not originally “in the mood” (I Corinthians 7:3-5).
But of course we evangelicals believe that sex has boundaries, and that is what we are often criticized for. It is well known that the God we believe in absolutely hates sexual immorality. In some cases he has even struck people dead for sexual immorality:
We should not commit sexual immorality, as some of them did—and in one day twenty-three thousand of them died. (I Corinthians 10:8)
But there is a reason God gets angry with sexual immorality. Sex is sacred. He created it as a vehicle for a special kind of love between a man and a wife, and He does not like to see it desecrated. Pure sexual love exhibits some of the best qualities that God prizes: loyalty, commitment, self-control patience, gentleness, sacrifice of one’s self for another person’s needs. But sexual immorality exhibits traits that God despises: violence, disloyalty, selfishness, instability, rashness. Despite what some people claim, true love is never displayed through sexual immorality. Sometimes you can show more love by not having sex with someone. Some times if you really care about another person you will walk away from them, rather than try to seduce them into a relationship that will be harmful to both of you.