I greatly enjoy being a married Christian man with a wonderful wife who is helping me raise godly offspring for the Lord. However, despite that, I realize that Christians need to be careful not to idolize marriage. Marriage is a good, honorable estate, but so is celibacy. Romance and sex is great, but we should not worship it. One can certainly choose physical intimacy over celibacy for selfish, ungodly reasons. God calls some people to singleness, so that they have more time to serve God directly, as the Apostle Paul explains below:
But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.
36 If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong[b] and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married. 37 But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind not to marry the virgin—this man also does the right thing. 38 So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better.[c]
39 A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. 40 In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is—and I think that I too have the Spirit of God. (I Corinthians 7:34-40 NIV).
In the passage above the Apostle Paul affirms that Christians do indeed have the right to marry: it is not sin. However, there are several practical advantages to being single. Christian young people need to be made aware of these advantages as they decide whether or not to seek marriage. We should not automatically assume that marriage is for everyone.