There are many men who divorce their wives because they do not love them anymore. God hates this. God commands men to be committed to their wives with consistent, sacrificial love. A man should be willing to give his money and his time for his wife, even if she is not perfect. He should not leave her for someone who is prettier or has a better personality. God views these actions as deep betrayal. God says in the Bible that he will not listen to the prayers of those who betray their wives in this way:
Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. 14 You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. (Malachi 2:13-14 NIV)
There are many so-called Christian men nowadays who flood the Lord’s altar with tears. That means that they spend a lot of time in prayer, passionately asking God to bless them. These men weep and wail because God no longer looks with favor on their prayers. Some of these men are unemployed and ask for jobs, but God doesn’t give it to them. Some of them ask to be cured from depression, but God does not help them. Some of them ask for relationships to be restored with their children, but God does not give them this either. The reason why God does not answer their prayers is because they have been unfaithful to the wife of their youth. That means they have divorced their first wife, the one that they pledged love to in front of witnesses, the wife of their marriage covenant. God hates it when men desert their partner for selfish reasons. They have a responsibility to love her, provide for her, and stay with her as long as is physically possible. Every man who divorces his wife is sinning, unless he is forced into it by the woman herself and has no power to do anything to stop it.
These so-called Christian men have no excuse for treating their wives this way. God created these men and He has commanded them to be faithful to their wives.
15 Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring.[d] So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.
God desires for men to love and cherish their wives until the day they die. Men belong to their Creator in body and spirit and should therefore obey Him. There is a reason that God demands this faithfulness: he desires God offspring. God knows that divorce is damaging to children. They flourish best where their parents sincerely love each other. If you choose divorce over love, be sure that it will have a devastating effect on your children. And don’t blame your children for judging you when they stop talking to you: they are only children and do not know how to deal with the disaster that you are forcing on them. If you choose to stop loving their mother, they will logically question your commitment to keep on loving them as well. Therefore, be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.
16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,”[e] says the Lord Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful. (Malachi 2:13-16)
Therefore, all Christian men who have been unfaithful to their wives, or who have chosen divorce over love, need to repent of this sin and ask forgiveness from those they have hurt. God is loving and willingly to forgive them, but they must repent.
If you have sinned in this way and have not yet repented, you should not expect God to bless you. He won’t. He is not going to bless you for your cruelty.