Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. (I Corinthians 7:8-9 NIV)
In the passage above the Apostle Paul again states that Christians are not required to marry, in fact, there are benefits to remain unmarried. By remaining unmarried you avoid the potential for marital conflict, and you have more time and energy to spend directly on ministry. Therefore Paul says that it is good for the unmarried and widows to stay unmarried as the Apostle Paul himself was. However, this is not a commandment. Marriage is not forbidden to Christians, and if you fall hard in love with someone who is a godly, eligible person, you should probably marry them, for if you resist you will simply burn with passion. It is better, then, for you to marry them and enjoy intimate companionship with a godly partner, rather than be constantly distracted by your lusts.
It is common in our culture to put a lot of pressure on widows and widowers to remarry after their spouse dies. Some men and women who are dying even force their spouses to promise that they will start dating again after they are gone. However, I think we should be careful not to try to persuade widows and widowers to remarry if they do not want to. It is neither selfish nor immoral for them to remain celibate after the death of their spouse and spend extra time in prayer to God and remembering the dear person who has departed. They are not required to remarry if they do not want to.
In fact, I would caution anyone to who is thinking about marriage to exercise extreme caution, whether it is their first marriage or their second or third. Marriage is serious business. You must make sure that you are marrying the right person for the right reasons. Widows who have young children will naturally feel a lot of pressure to remarry, but they must take care to make sure that they are not just marrying because of their need. A woman should never marry a man who does not truly love her, because he will eventually hurt her in the end.