We live in a secular society that pretty much worships sex. Many teenage boys, sadly, fall for the lie that sex=happiness. Within the church we rightly expose sex outside of marriage as being both wrong and often contributing to depression. However, sometimes we go too far in worshipping sex within marriage. We put marriage up on a pedestal as if it is something that all young people should aspire too. However, Christians do not need marriage in order to live a meaningful life. celibacy is a legitimate option for Christian young people as well. Let us take a look at today’s Bible verses:
Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. (I Corinthians 7:1-2 NIV)
Paul here does not deny that it can be good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman. In other words, there is nothing wrong with choosing a life of celibacy. If a man is able to remain a virgin his entire life and be content and serve God whole-heartedly at the same time, then he probably should. Secular society claims that virgins are inferior to others because they are not “man enough” to “get any.” But I say that any man who is capable of keeping his sex drive under control to the extent that he can live a life of celibacy with contentment, is more of a man than most other men, because he has an incredible amount of control over his emotions and hormones. I do not despise Christian young men who are able to live the single lifestyle gracefully, rather, I admire them.
However, there is no commandment for all men to live this lifestyle. Marriage is a good thing too. Paul mentions here that it is a guard against sexual immorality, that it is better to have sex in a godly manner, than to be constantly filled with raging temptation to have sex in an ungodly manner.
I am not saying, necessarily, that an unmarried life is better than a married one. I personally am married, and I love it. Yes, it requires a large time commitment, but I have grown so much spiritually from learning to intimately love and sacrifice myself for another person on a daily basis. Also, my wisdom about relationships and about how to treat others has grown because my wife shares with me many of her personal struggles. I have developed many leadership qualities through the challenges of raising a family and loving a wife that I would never have developed if I had remained single.