People want to be loved. They need someone to be interested in them and care for them. This is true of everyone, but it is especially true of young women. They need someone who appreciates their true inner beauty and tells them how important they are.
My advice to teenage girls is that they find ways of having this need fulfilled without dating. This advice may seem counterintuitive, but there are other people in your life beside your boyfriend who can give you love. Hopefully there will be a time in your life when you experience the kind of exciting romantic love that can only happen between a man and a woman. However, before you are ready for that, you need to experience love from other sources. You need to know what it is like to have someone looking out for you and caring for you. It should feel normal to hear someone else telling you how special you are.
Girls who start dating before they have experienced healthy, non-romantic relationships often get their hearts broken. They are easy prey for young men who are only interested in their looks. A teen-age boy will tell a girl what she wants to hear, but many times he will break his word and dump her as soon as he has gotten what he wants. If you are a young woman who is starved for love you will find it hard to resist these boys. Some of them are good talkers, and will make you feel special for awhile, but later on they will break your heart.
That’s why you should protect yourself from these boys by building healthy relationships elsewhere. A woman who is not starved for love is a lot more stable and better at judging the intentions of men. Usually the source of these relationships will be your family. If you have a mother and sisters who pay attention to your feelings, and a father and brothers who protect you, you will be less desperate for attention from boys. The best place for you to look for love first is from your own flesh and blood.
Unfortunately, some of you who are reading this article probably come from dysfunctional families. Perhaps one of your parents is absent from your life, and the other one doesn’t act like they love you very much. I would suggest that you do the best you can to build your relationship with whatever family you may have. Some young girls foolishly break off their relationship with their families at the very point in their lives when they need them the most. Your own flesh and blood, no matter how selfish, will always care for you at least a little bit. You should draw as close to them as you safely can.
Nevertheless, if you are not loved at home there are other places where you can turn to find admiration and appreciation. It could be from one person or it could be a group of people. It could be a school-teacher, someone at your church, a Bible-study group, or a relative. Be careful, however, that you do not draw too close to someone of the opposite sex, even if he is two or three times your age. Until you are married, you should only share your most intimate thoughts with other women.
Ultimately, there is one person who loves you more than anyone else does. That person is God. It doesn’t matter who you are. He created you and gave life to you so that you could love Him back. That is why He sent Jesus to die for you. It doesn’t matter how bad of a person you are or have been in the past, He still loves you as much as He loves everyone else. He wants you to repent of your sins and believe in Him. Jesus gave His life for you. Now you need to return the favor and give your life completely over to Him. If you do not love God you will never learn to truly love anyone else.